tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8435147179832820100.post703481956685767519..comments2023-04-04T04:23:21.896-07:00Comments on The Patron Saint of Mediocrity: A revelation and an inquirySalierihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01467113375894167828noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8435147179832820100.post-47105475025210161182008-05-28T15:45:00.000-07:002008-05-28T15:45:00.000-07:00Upon self-reflection, I use #2. One of my flaws: ...Upon self-reflection, I use #2. One of my flaws: oversensitivity. So say I'm upset by something I know I shouldn't be, because I'm feeling particularly petulant that day. I'll act as though I'm not upset. If I feel the act slipping, I'll try to take myself out of the situation. 9 times out of 10, once I get some space and perspective I find out my brain was right. I end up not bothered and glad I didn't say anything stupid. The 10th time, my heart/feelings were right and I just thought it was my bad mood that was making me sensitive. So I speak up. But now I have the perspective and emotional distancee to approach the situation calmly and not be an *ss about it.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12733890861199573099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8435147179832820100.post-10706229671899031882008-05-28T07:02:00.000-07:002008-05-28T07:02:00.000-07:00I prefer alternative 3, which does not have a catc...I prefer alternative 3, which does not have a catchy name - identify things you do that don't work as well for you as you want them to, and take steps to alter them so that they work better. (As your energy and life permit.) I don't see this as "fake it til you make it," because you are not pretending anything - you're working to effect change, not just pretending that it has already happened and hoping that it will somehow magically "really" happen.<BR/><BR/>"Keepin' it real" just seems counterproductive. Sitting around saying "I'm miserable, but it's somehow ok because I'm being true to my flaws"? Doesn't do a lot for me. There are plenty of self-internal things that are valuable to be true to - moral/ethical convictions, an underlying understanding of how the world works, etc. - but flaws, not so much. Doesn't mean you don't take them into account (i.e., I'm not going to go try to become a professional actor tomorrow, in part because I have shoddy memorization skills at the moment), just that they're not immutable objects.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com